1. Catch the Good Moments
👉 Tip: Give attention for positive behaviors before they start whining.
💬 Try saying: “I love how you’re playing so nicely!” or “Thank you for waiting so patiently!”
This teaches them that calm behavior gets noticed too—not just whining.
2. Use Calm, Clear Responses
👉 Tip: Respond to whining with a calm tone and simple words like:
💬 “I can’t understand you when you use that voice. Try again with your big kid voice.”
Staying calm shows them that whining won’t speed things up—but using their words will.
3. Teach and Practice “Wait Time”
👉 Tip: Start with just 1–2 minutes of "wait time" while you're nearby.
💬 You might say: “You’re safe while I finish this. I’ll be with you in just a minute.”
Build up their confidence that they can handle small waits—and you always come back.
4. Create a “Special Time” Routine
👉 Tip: Schedule a short, focused time together each day—even just 10 minutes.
💬 Say: “This is our special time—just me and you!”
This can fill their “attention cup” and reduce constant seeking throughout the day.
5. Name Their Feelings
👉 Tip: Use simple language to help toddlers learn what they’re feeling.
💬 “It sounds like you’re tired of waiting. That’s hard. I’m almost done.”
Naming feelings helps toddlers feel seen and builds emotional regulation over time.
6. Give Simple Choices
👉 Tip: Offer small, toddler-appropriate choices to give them a sense of control.
💬 “Do you want to play with blocks or books while you wait?”
Choices can reduce power struggles and whining by helping toddlers feel more in charge.