Routines are more than just daily checklists—they help kids know what to expect, which builds a sense of safety and trust. When children understand what’s coming next and what’s expected of them, they’re more likely to cooperate. For example, if your child knows that brushing teeth always comes after storytime, they’re less likely to argue or resist. The predictability becomes comforting.
Research shows that consistent routines around things like meals, play, and bedtime help children regulate their emotions and behavior. This is especially true during tricky times of day—like early mornings or the after-school rush—when everyone’s tired or in a hurry. A routine acts like a roadmap, helping your child feel more in control and reducing those meltdowns that often happen when expectations feel unclear.
Routines can also support important skills. When children take on small tasks—like putting their lunchbox in their bag or placing dirty clothes in the laundry—they practice independence and feel proud to help. Even toddlers can follow simple steps with a little guidance, and routines are a great way to build those habits over time.
Why This Matters
When family life feels chaotic, routines offer structure and calm. They give kids a sense of control and responsibility, while giving you fewer things to remind, nag, or worry about. Whether you’re parenting a busy preschooler or a sleepy first-grader, routines can turn daily stress into smoother, more connected moments.
Try This at Home
1. Start with your trickiest time of day.
Pick one moment that often feels stressful—like getting out the door in the morning or winding down at night—and write out a simple routine with 3–5 steps. Keep it visual and clear.
2. Involve your child in the routine.
Let them help choose or decorate a routine chart, or talk through the steps together. Kids are more likely to follow a plan they helped create.
3. Build in rest and fun.
Downtime is part of a healthy routine too! Make sure your child has chances to play, rest, and reset throughout the day—it helps prevent challenging behaviors before they start.
Bonus Tip
Try linking two tasks together. For example, “After you brush your teeth, you can pick out your pajamas.” The connection helps the routine feel smoother and easier to remember.
Source: "Routines: Why They Work as a Positive Behaviour Strategy." Raising Children Network,