Why it happens: Biting is common in toddlers and preschoolers. It’s often a way to express big feelings like frustration, excitement, or a need for attention—especially when they don’t yet have the words.
✅ What Parents Can Do:
1. Stay Calm, But Firm
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Respond quickly and calmly: "No biting. Biting hurts."
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Avoid yelling or shaming—children learn best when they feel safe and understood.
2. Teach Words for Big Feelings
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Model phrases like:
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“I’m mad!”
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“I need space.”
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“Help me, please.”
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Read books about emotions or biting (e.g., Teeth Are Not for Biting by Elizabeth Verdick).
3. Watch for Triggers
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Is your child tired, hungry, overwhelmed, or overstimulated?
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Keep a simple journal or make a mental note of what happened right before the bite.
4. Offer a Positive Alternative
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Teach replacement behaviors:
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"If you’re mad, stomp your feet."
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"If you want a toy, ask or wait."
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Give a chew toy or crunchy snack if it seems like a sensory need.
5. Reinforce Good Behavior
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Catch them being kind: “I saw you used your words—that was awesome!”
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Use simple praise and attention when they manage frustration without biting.
6. Use Consistent, Simple Consequences
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If biting happens again, remove the child from the situation briefly:
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“You bit. That hurts. We take a break now.”
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Keep it short and predictable.
7. Partner With Your Child's Teacher
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Share strategies so your child hears the same language and support at home and school.
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Ask what patterns the teacher sees—it may give helpful insight.