✅ What Parents Can Do:
1. Stay Calm (Even When They’re Not)
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Take a breath before responding.
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Use a low, steady voice: “You’re upset. I’m here to help.”
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Your calm helps regulate their storm.
2. Name the Feeling
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“You’re frustrated because you wanted more screen time.”
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Validating the feeling doesn’t mean you’re giving in—it teaches emotional awareness.
3. Pick Your Battles
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Let go of little things when you can (“Mismatch socks? Sure!”).
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Save “no” for safety and clear boundaries.
4. Give Choices to Boost Cooperation
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“Do you want to brush your teeth before or after pajamas?”
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Choices help kids feel some control, which reduces pushback.
5. Use Clear, Positive Instructions
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Say what to do, not just what not to do:
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✔ “Walk, please” instead of ✖ “Don’t run.”
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Keep directions short and simple.
6. Create Predictable Routines
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Routines help kids feel secure—and less likely to test limits.
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Use a visual schedule or timer for tricky transitions (like leaving the park).
7. Teach Calm-Down Skills
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Practice “big belly breaths” or squeezing a stuffed animal.
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Have a calm-down space (not a punishment corner)—a cozy spot with pillows, books, or fidgets.
8. Reconnect After the Tantrum
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When it’s over, talk briefly:
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“You were really mad when it was time to go. Next time, let’s try saying ‘I need help.’”
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Praise any progress: “You calmed down so fast!”
9. Be Consistent, Not Harsh
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If there’s a consequence, make it logical and immediate:
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“You threw the toy, so we’ll put it away for now.”
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Avoid threats or punishment that doesn’t teach the right behavior.
10. You’re Not Alone!
Tantrums are normal. The goal isn’t to stop them completely, but to guide kids through them with love and structure.