Learning new skills, especially something as big as using the potty, doesn’t always happen in a straight line for young children. Kids often learn in bursts—making big progress one day and then seeming to lose ground the next. This back-and-forth is a normal part of how children grow and adapt. Sometimes potty training regression happens after big changes, like starting a new child-care center or welcoming a new sibling.
It’s important to first rule out medical causes like constipation or infections, since these can make potty training harder. But often, regression is how your child deals with stress or changes in their life. Imagine how hard it can be to keep a routine when everything around you feels different or overwhelming. For a child, this might mean going back to diapers or having accidents as a way to feel safe or get extra attention.
What’s really helpful is listening to your child—even if they can’t say exactly what’s wrong—and helping them find ways to feel more comfortable. This might mean bringing familiar things to the new potty, spending special one-on-one time, or talking with caregivers to keep things consistent. When you include your child in solving the problem, they feel more in control and ready to try again.
Why This Matters
Potty training regression can feel like a big setback, but it’s often a sign your child needs extra support during a tough time. Understanding this helps you stay patient and encouraging, reducing stress for both of you and making it easier for your child to get back on track.
Try This at Home
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Look for Changes: Think about what’s new or different in your child’s life that might be causing stress.
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Talk and Listen: Let your child know you see the changes in their potty habits and ask gently what might be bothering them.
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Make Potty Time Comfortable: Bring familiar toys or books to the bathroom, create quiet time just for your child, and work with caregivers to keep potty routines consistent.
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Be Patient and Positive: Use praise, hugs, and small rewards to encourage your child’s efforts without pressure.
If regression lasts longer than a month or feels very stressful, consider taking a short break from potty training and try again when your child feels ready.
Adapted from American Academy of Pediatrics. (2016). Guide to Toilet Training (2nd Edition). Last updated May 25, 2022. Copyright © 2016 American Academy of Pediatrics.