When a child is struggling, it can be easy to immediately focus on correcting the behavior. But a child who is upset, frustrated, or disconnected may not be ready to listen to a correction.
Connection doesn't mean ignoring behavior or removing expectations. It means helping the child feel understood while still maintaining the boundary.
Try to:
- Get down to the child's level.
- Acknowledge what they are feeling.
- Use a calm and respectful tone.
- Clearly state the limit.
- Offer help when the child needs it.
- Follow up with teaching once the child is calm.
For example: “You really wanted the toy. It's hard to wait. I won't let you take it from your friend. You can ask for a turn.”
The teacher is acknowledging the child's experience while still maintaining the expectation.
The goal is both: connection and guidance.