Sit with children and participate.
When staffing and supervision allow, join children at the table rather than managing the meal from across the room. Model conversation, listening, and positive social interactions.
Help children connect with one another.
Support simple exchanges between peers.
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“Mia is telling us about her tower. What did you build today?”
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“You both have strawberries. What else do you like to eat?”
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“Let's give everyone a chance to share.”
Avoid requiring children to speak in front of the group if they aren't comfortable.
Model respectful language and interactions.
Use calm reminders and demonstrate the behaviors you want children to learn. Instead of focusing only on manners, explain what helps everyone feel comfortable at the table.
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“Let's give our friend time to finish talking.”
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“You can ask for the bowl when someone is finished.”
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“Let's make room so everyone has space.”
Honor children's backgrounds and experiences.
Food traditions vary across families and cultures. Use respectful, curious language when children share something unfamiliar, and avoid describing one family's foods or practices as strange.
Make room for different needs.
Some children may need visual supports, adaptive utensils, seating accommodations, additional processing time, or quieter mealtime environments. Work with families and relevant specialists to support meaningful participation.
Try This Today: During one meal, intentionally model a conversation between children. Help them listen, respond to a peer, and share an idea while making sure participation remains welcoming rather than forced.