1. Stay Calm Yourself
Preschoolers mirror adult emotions.
If you’re anxious, their bodies feel it.
Helpful strategies:
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Slow breathing
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Soft tone
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Kneeling to their level
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Keeping your face relaxed
If you need a moment, it’s healthy to say:
“I’m taking a break. I’ll be right back.”
You are modeling self-regulation.
2. Use Words + Empathy
Preschoolers are learning to name feelings.
Try:
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“You’re disappointed. That’s okay.”
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“You wanted more time.”
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“I’m here with you.”
You can validate the emotion without saying yes to unsafe behavior.
3. Offer Calming Tools
Preschoolers often respond well to simple tools:
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Cozy corner with books or stuffed animals
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Sip of cool water
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Slow walk or easy movement
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Drawing or playdough
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Listening to a song
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Hug or firm squeeze (if wanted)
They don’t need complicated strategies — just connection and options.
4. Give Choices
Choices help kids feel safe and competent.
Examples:
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“Do you want to put your shoes on first or your jacket?”
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“Two more turns, then we leave.”
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“Blue cup or green cup?”
Limits stay the same, but kids feel empowerment.
5. Keep Predictable Routines
Preschoolers thrive when they know what’s coming.
Helpful routines:
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Morning and bedtime steps
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Transition songs
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Clear order (“First clean up, then story”)
Routines reduce power struggles and meltdowns.