1. Stay Calm Yourself
Toddlers mirror your energy.
If you are tense, they get more tense.
If you breathe slowly, they are more likely to settle.
Helpful reminders:
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Lower your shoulders
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Take 2–3 slow breaths
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Speak gently
If you need a break, it’s okay to say:
“I’m feeling upset. I need a minute.”
That is healthy modeling.
2. Use Simple Language
Toddlers understand more than they can say.
Try:
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“You are sad. I’m here.”
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“Let’s take a break.”
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“You want the blue cup.”
This validates feelings while keeping limits.
3. Offer Calming Tools
Toddlers often need help balancing energy.
Try:
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A cool drink of water
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A slow walk outside
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A favorite song
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A book and cuddle
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Deep breaths together
Small sensory breaks can prevent meltdowns.
4. Keep Predictable Routines
Regular patterns help toddlers feel safe.
Helpful routines:
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Snack and meal times
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Nap time
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Transition songs (“Clean up, clean up!”)
When children know what to expect, behavior usually improves.
Real-Life Examples
Example 1: Grocery Store Meltdown
Your toddler wants a snack now.
They yell and cry.
You kneel and say:
“You’re upset. We will get snack after we pay.”
You give a small job:
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“Can you help push the cart?”
The movement and connection ease the moment.
Example 2: Leaving the Playground
Your toddler falls on the ground crying.
You stay calm and say:
“Leaving is hard. Take my hand. We’ll walk to the car.”
Sing a song while walking.
Movement + connection = regulation.