1. Stay Regulated Yourself
Your calm is contagious.
Before responding, try:
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One slow breath
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Relaxing shoulders
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Quiet voice
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Soft facial expression
If you need a moment, say:
“I’m taking a pause. I’ll be right back.”
You show them what healthy coping looks like.
2. Name Feelings + Validate
Preschoolers are building emotional vocabulary.
Use simple language:
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“You feel frustrated.”
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“It’s okay to be sad.”
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“You wanted more time.”
You validate feelings without removing limits:
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“It’s okay to be mad. It’s not okay to hit.”
3. Offer Choices
Choices reduce power struggles and build independence.
Examples:
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“Do you want the red marker or blue?”
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“Walk or hop to the rug?”
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“One more minute or two?”
Limits stay consistent, but the child feels safe and capable.
4. Use Calming Tools and Sensory Supports
Preschool bodies need movement and rest.
Classroom ideas:
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Cozy corner with books or fidgets
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Water bottle
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Slow walk with teacher
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Playdough table
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Breathing jar
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Hug a pillow
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Music or rhythm
Simple, predictable strategies keep nervous systems steady.
5. Keep Routines Steady
Transitions are easier when they are expected.
Classroom supports:
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Visual schedules
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Transition songs
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First/Then language
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Countdown warnings
Example:
“First clean up, then circle.”
Consistency builds confidence and calm.
The OT Toolbox — “What Is Co-Regulation?” (2023).
https://www.theottoolbox.com/co-regulation/